Do you also have such troubles when dating:
· You get along well with cheerful boys, but you don’t know how to start a conversation with an introverted and reserved person?
· It was fine at the beginning, but soon it fell into a cold spot and the relationship could not progress?
· Why do others easily attract different types of boys, but you always fail?
Many girls will find that sunny and cheerful boys are easy to get along with, while introverted or straight boys are difficult to get along with. In fact, this is not because the other party is difficult to talk to, but because you have not found the right way.
"A truly high-ranking woman knows how to use strategies to make boys of every personality fall in love with her."
The "mirror effect" in psychology points out that when a person feels that the other person’s personality and behavior are highly consistent with his own, he will unconsciously develop a good impression. Rather than forcefully catering, it is better to learn to adapt and show multi-faceted charm through clever adjustments.
Dating rules: When you meet for the first time, wear a "two-piece suit"
On a first date, when you still can’t fully understand the other person’s personality, the safest strategy is to use a "two-piece set" of personality:
1. Affinity + Frankness: Show a friendly and straightforward attitude to relieve the other party’s tension.
2. Charming and sultry + cute and dignified: Use your eyes and body language to express your goodwill appropriately, while maintaining a natural and fresh image.
For example, during a blind date, one of my students, Xiaobai, found that the other person was so reserved that he did not dare to look directly at her. She broke the ice with ease:
"Oh, you don’t have to be so nervous. The hairs on your arms are standing up! Let’s not treat it like a blind date, let’s just treat it like a reunion of old classmates and chat!"
The other person relaxed instantly and his eyes began to soften.
"Affinity is the first key, and an open attitude can quickly open the door to the other person’s heart."
Different depending on personality: How to get along with different male gods
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Restricted and introverted: Give him a sense of security
Such boys often behave unnaturally on dates due to lack of experience in dating. At this time, you need to be generous and proactive and use humor to resolve the awkwardness. Specific methods:
· Use humor to break the ice during interactions. For example, when you are eating night market snacks, you can easily say:
"Yours looks better than mine, can I have a bite?" Such a request not only builds intimacy, but also allows the other person to put down their guard.
· When walking, create easy physical contact, such as gently tugging on his sleeve: "There are so many people, I’m afraid we will get separated." These seemingly unintentional small actions can quickly shorten the distance.
"A reserved boy needs your initiative to make him feel a different kind of warmth."
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Sunny and cheerful type: Create emotional value
When getting along with a boy with a cheerful personality, you don’t need to use too much active catering, but create attraction through emotional fluctuations. Specific methods:
· Don’t rush to show yourself, but guide the other person to tell more about their experiences. For example, when he talks about a trip, you could ask:
“What was the most special thing about that trip?”
· Use eye interaction to increase attraction, maintain a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, but at the same time give the other person a sense of mystery.
"Under the sunny and cheerful appearance, every boy has an inner world that longs to be understood."
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Gentle and considerate type: show your depth
Such boys tend to be well-informed and value women’s inner cultivation and emotional value more. The key is to show your unique charm at the right time in emotional interactions. Specific methods:
· When listening to his expression, do not blindly agree, but introduce your own opinions appropriately. For example, when he mentions a book, you could respond:
"There’s another point in this book that I like better. What do you think?"
· It is flattering without losing edge, providing emotional value while revealing inner depth. This kind of balance is easiest to impress mature and high-quality boys.
"A smart woman will not use blind pandering to gain love, but will use true depth to leave an irreplaceable impression."
Domination in love: You can be the winner in every relationship
In a relationship, whether you can win the initiative does not depend on whether you cater to the other person, but on whether you can become an existence that he cannot forget. Regardless of the person’s personality, the core of these dating tips are:
“Make yourself unique, not one of many.”
When dating, personality differences are not obstacles but opportunities to demonstrate high emotional intelligence. Through careful observation and intelligent adjustment, you can show your unique side in any situation.
Remember, “The winner in a relationship is not the person who tries the hardest to please, but the person who knows how to control the rhythm of the interaction.”
No matter what the other person’s personality is, as long as you master these dating rules, you can easily win his heart. If you want to learn more in-depth dating strategies, you may wish to contact our analysts to explore more possibilities together: