"Why does he stop replying every time we chat?"
"Why does the other party take the initiative to chat with me, but the topic always seems uninteresting?"
“How can I make his heart beat faster during a chat instead of just having an awkward conversation?”
Chatting is one of the most important beginnings of modern emotional interaction. However, many girls miss the opportunity to establish emotional connection because they are too casual or rigid when chatting.
Why do your chats always end in silence?
Lack of emotional arousal
Many girls are used to responding in a "running account" way when chatting, such as:
· He asked: "What are you doing?"
· You answered: "Watching TV."
· He then asked: "What TV are you watching?"
· You answered: "Cartoons."
This kind of "mechanical" dialogue has no emotional fluctuations and can easily make the other party feel bored and lose interest in interaction.
Ignore the other person’s subtext
When a boy asks you "what are you doing", he doesn’t just want to know about your activities, but he wants to test your attitude towards him through the topic. If your response is too bland, he will mistakenly think that you are not interested in him.
Did not create a “sultry atmosphere”
Successful chat = information exchange + emotional resonance.
If you only focus on talking about "things" and neglect to arouse the other person’s emotions, it will be difficult to create a sultry effect.
Core skills for high-level chatting: Feel the sultry method
The core of the feeling sultry method is to arouse the other person’s curiosity and emotional fluctuations by expressing your own feelings. This method can quickly shorten the psychological distance and increase the other person’s attention to you. Specific operations:
Use feelings instead of running accounts
· He asked: "What are you doing?"
· You can say: "You know what? I’m so happy now because you took the initiative to ask me what I’m doing!" and add a cute emoticon.
Such a response not only breaks the dull conversation pattern, but also allows him to feel your enthusiasm and stimulates his initiative.
Answer the wrong question and create curiosity
· He asked: "How were you today?"
· You can say: "Guess what, something super happy happened to me today!"
This way of answering questions will arouse the curiosity of the other person and make him more involved in the conversation.
Seize the subtext and respond directly to your heart
If the other party takes the initiative to say: "I think you are very busy recently." High-ranking girls will directly use feelings to seduce:
· "Actually, I’ve been really busy recently, but hearing that you care about me makes me feel that everything is worth it."
“The spark of emotion is often hidden in a response that makes the other person’s heart beat faster.”
Advanced interaction skills that make chatting less awkward
Observe the other party’s emotions and use “empathic responses” to increase stickiness
If he complains that he is tired from work, ordinary girls will say: "Then you should go to bed early."
And smart girls will say: "I can imagine that you must be having a hard time today. Do you want me to chat with you and relax?"
This kind of response can make the other party feel your care and understanding, and quickly improve your favorability.
Replace mechanical questions with "interactive questions"
Avoid direct questions like "What type of girls do you like?" because it’s too direct. Try a more interesting approach, such as: "What do you think you would do if we took a trip to the beach?"
Interactive questions not only make the other party more willing to answer, but also make the chat more interesting.
Learn to use small hints to convey interest
For example, when the other party takes the initiative to chat with you, you can say: "Every time I chat with you, my mood gets better." This hint not only expresses your interest, but also makes the other party feel your special attention.
Identify his "implied affection" in chat
1. Take the initiative to start the topic: If he always takes the initiative to send messages, no matter whether the content is interesting or not, it means that he wants to get closer to you.
2. Care about your details: A boy who is truly interested in you will pay attention to your habits and needs, instead of just saying "drink more hot water".
3. Tentative invitation: He will test your reaction by saying "Let’s go and see together next time" and "Let’s have dinner together when we have time."
"Chatting is a testing ground for feelings, and behind the testing lies expectations for you."
Really high-level chat is not about stacking skills, but about expressing feelings, mobilizing emotions, and establishing deep connections. Starting today, try these methods to make your chat no longer superficial, but go straight to the heart of the other person!