"Does he really love me, or does he just like me?"
"If he doesn’t love me enough, how can I guide him to love me more?"
Many girls will have this question when they are in love: He says he likes you, but his behavior makes you not feel cherished; or you feel that he loves you, but you always feel that this love does not reach your level. expect.
So, how to accurately determine if a man truly loves you? How can you guide him to have deeper feelings for you?
Signal 1: Is he willing to reply to your messages in a timely manner?
A man who loves you will never be willing to ignore your existence for a long time. But the busyness of work and life will indeed make a man’s reply faster or slower. To judge whether he is really busy or just doesn’t want to talk to you, you can observe the following points:
1. Is the reply regular? If he is extremely busy but can always find time to reply to you during lunch and before going to bed at night, it means that you have a certain position in his life.
2. Frequency of taking the initiative to care about you: Even if he doesn’t take the initiative to chat, an occasional "How were you today?" is enough to show that he cares.
Signal 2: Is he willing to invest time, energy and money for you?
A man’s love is reflected in the resources he is willing to invest in you.
· Contribution of time and energy: At the beginning, the cost of energy and time is often more important than money. A man who truly loves you will take the time to understand your preferences, care about your emotions, and participate in your life.
· Financial contribution: If his financial situation allows it, but he cares about you and even wants to eat on a regular basis, then he may not take you seriously.
Signal 3: Can he empathize with you and care about your emotions?
People who love you may not completely understand your emotions, but they will definitely feel sorry for you because you are sad.
· If you are depressed because of small things, he will comfort you;
· If you are happy, he will be sincerely happy for you.
And a person who is indifferent to you will not care whether you cry or laugh, let alone respond to your emotions.
How to test how much he loves you? 4 simple ways to see through his mind
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Method 1: Action Test
Actions speak louder than words. You can pretend to be unwell one day and observe his reaction:
· If he immediately asks how you are doing, or even comes to visit in person, it means he really cares about you.
· If he just says "drink more hot water" or doesn’t take any actual actions at all, then his love may not be as deep as you think.
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Method 2: Energy test
A man who loves you is willing to spend energy on getting to know you, accompany you, and even solve problems for you.
· Does he want to remember your birthday or favorite things?
· Is he willing to accompany you to complete some activities that he is not interested in but you like?
True love is to still leave a space for you in the busyness.
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Method Three: Obedience Test
Test his attitude toward you on a date:
· For example, you deliberately show up a few minutes late for a date and ask him to buy you a drink. If he is willing to cooperate without complaining, it means he is willing to compromise for you.
· If he complains or even refuses, his patience and love may not be enough.
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Method 4: Ignore the test
Deliberately reduce contact and see if he takes the initiative to come to you.
· A man who loves you: will take the initiative to find you and try to understand your status.
· A man who is not interested in you may become indifferent and may not even take the initiative to greet you.
What should you do if he doesn’t love you enough? 3 ways to help you make a choice:
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.**Choose patience and delay the status quo**
Although some girls know that the other person does not love them enough, they can only endure it silently because they are reluctant to break up. But this will not only make you feel wronged for a long time, but also gradually lose confidence in your relationship.
"If you hold on and don’t let go, you will only sink yourself deeper and deeper."
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.**Stop loss decisively and start again**
If you find that he doesn’t love you at all, or is incapable of giving you the happiness you want, decisively cutting your losses is the best option.
Remember this sentence: "Sunk costs do not play a role in major decisions."
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.** Take the initiative to change and guide him to fall in love with you**
If you feel that this man’s conditions meet your expectations, but he just lacks some emotional "catalysts", you can cultivate his deep feelings for you through skills and guidance.
1. Show your uniqueness: Make him feel that you are unique through your hobbies and independence.
2. Meet his core needs: Understand his emotional needs, such as care, support and encouragement, and let him feel your warmth and stability.
3. Use psychological techniques to control the rhythm: Create a "sense of distance" at the right time to make him cherish your existence more.
The key to judging whether a man loves you is not his sweet words, but whether he pays for you with his heart. "Love is made up of details, but true love is willing to change for you."