In love, have you ever wondered: Although we love each other, why do we feel that there are always hidden dangers in this relationship?
If you notice the following signs, then this relationship may require you to examine and think more deeply:
Sign 1: He is extremely disrespectful to his parents
In the early stages of a relationship, many people tend to only pay attention to the other person’s attitude towards themselves, but ignore the other person’s behavior towards their family members. However, a person who is disrespectful to his parents is likely to expose more problems in his future married life.
Case study
When Ms. Zhao was in college, she had a boyfriend who was considerate of her in every possible way, but a family gathering made her see him differently. At that time, her boyfriend’s mother misunderstood that Ms. Zhao liked coffee, so she specially brought her a cup.
As a result, the boyfriend scolded the mother with insulting language on the spot: "Are you deaf?" The mother could only apologize awkwardly and leave.
Afterwards, Ms. Zhao asked her boyfriend why he was so rude to her mother, but her boyfriend said lightly: "She is just a country girl, not worth mentioning."
Ms. Zhao was deeply disturbed and finally chose to break up. How can a person who doesn’t even respect his close relatives truly respect his partner?
Lightning protection reminder
Observe a person’s attitude towards his family, especially his parents. This not only reflects his family view, but also reflects his inner values. People with healthy family relationships are more likely to know how to cherish and respect their relationships.
Sign 2: He refuses to talk to you about any serious topics
The depth of a relationship is often reflected in the willingness of both parties to communicate and solve problems. If the other person consistently avoids discussing serious topics and is only willing to indulge in superficial romance, this may be a sign of emotional immaturity.
Case study
A girl shared her experience: her boyfriend never wanted to discuss future plans. When she tried to chat with him about work and life arrangements, he always changed the topic and made jokes to diffuse the serious atmosphere.
On the surface it looks humorous, but in reality it shows a lack of responsibility for feelings.
As shown in "The Biography of Zhen Huan", the emperor was willing to listen to Zhen Huan talk about government affairs because he trusted her. And those who don’t want to talk about "business" often don’t really see their partner as part of their future plans.
Lightning protection reminder
A truly healthy relationship is based on communication and consensus. If your partner keeps avoiding issues, re-examine his or her level of commitment to the relationship.
Signal 3: Too "acting" when pursuing you
Passionate pursuit is the beginning of love, but if the pursuit method is too "dramatic" and even ignores your wishes and comfort, the other person’s unhealthy emotional pattern may be hidden behind this.
Case study
Ms. Wang was madly pursued by a boy, who expressed his love in extremely exaggerated ways: a large bouquet of roses, lighting candles downstairs to express his love, and even announcing it to the world on social media.
However, when Ms. Wang clearly refused, the other party said: "Everyone knows that I am chasing you, can you still run away?" This paranoid pursuit method frightened her.
A few years later, she learned that the boy had seriously injured his wife due to domestic violence after they got married. Excessive narcissism and desire for control are the core of this "passionate pursuit" and often indicate danger signs in future relationships.
Lightning protection reminder
To judge whether a person’s pursuit is serious is not based on the superficial "romantic", but whether he respects your feelings. Respecting boundaries is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship.
Sign 4: Ignoring or belittling your feelings
Psychological research shows that the longevity of a relationship depends on whether both parties value each other’s emotional expressions. If the other person always ignores your feelings or even responds to your sharing with a contemptuous attitude, then this relationship must be full of hidden dangers.
Case study
In one experiment, couples were asked to spend time together in a room. The first couple noticed a parrot. When the girl asked to share it, the boy immediately responded positively and the two chatted happily.
But in the second couple, the boy said contemptuously: "A broken bird, what’s so strange about it?" In the end, the couple broke up on bad terms.
It turns out that responding positively to your partner’s feelings is an important factor in maintaining a relationship. Ignoring or even refuting will only make the relationship gradually grow cold.
Lightning protection reminder
Only a person who knows how to listen and respond can give you a real sense of security in your relationship. And partners who ignore their feelings often find it difficult to cherish your relationship.
The lightning protection signal in love is like a beacon when flying at night, reminding us to adjust the direction in time. Happy love is never about blind investment, but about learning to identify which people and relationships are worthy of careful management.