How to make the man you love love you more? How to get him to give you more? Smart women know how to use some little tricks to easily heat up the relationship and make the relationship more harmonious.
Today, I will teach you practical strategies to make a man unable to live without you. Once you master these skills, you will find that managing relationships is actually not that difficult.
Learn the top hat method and let men take the initiative to pay
Many people think that men will only act when a woman is angry, and talking normally does not seem to work. In fact, this is a misunderstanding of the top hat method.
The core of the top hat method is not to simply use a gentle tone, but to build his excellent image through praise and let him take the initiative to maintain this glory.
For example, if you find that your husband forgot to wipe the table after washing the dishes, don’t accuse him directly: "Why did you forget it again?" This will easily make him feel criticized and make him more resistant.
You can say something like this: "I didn’t expect that you, a person who loves cleanliness so much, would forget to clean the table today! You must be too busy and you neglected it."
In this way, he will feel that he is a clean and tidy person in your heart, and this sense of recognition will prompt him to pay more attention next time.
The power of praise can not only stimulate his sense of responsibility, but also allow him to enjoy the sense of accomplishment after his efforts. In this way, he will feel that taking the initiative to do some small things is his own outstanding performance, rather than a forced obligation.
Clear needs, hard words and soft words are more effective
Many women are used to beating around the bush when expressing their needs. As a result, men are confused and either don’t understand or pretend not to understand. A smart woman knows how to clarify her needs directly and express them in a gentle way.
For example, if you want a gift for your birthday, don’t say in a roundabout way: "My best friend’s husband bought her a bag, I’m so envious." Such words will make a man think you are comparing yourself, and he will resist.
Instead, you can tell him directly: "Dear, I really want a bag for my birthday this year. What do you think of this bag? I think it suits me very well."
After expressing clear needs, you can also add: "I know the expenses have been a bit high recently. If it is a bit difficult, we can choose another one with a higher cost performance."
This kind of expression will not put pressure on a man, but also let him know your feelings. Clarifying your needs is the first step to letting the other person understand you, and a gentle attitude makes it easier for him to accept.
Create an emotional connection so he can’t live without you
Managing a relationship requires not only material sacrifice, but also emotional connection. Many women complain that men are cold and uncaring. In fact, it is because there is insufficient emotional interaction between the two.
When he shows concern, respond promptly to his kindness. For example, if he takes the initiative to buy you fruit, you can say sincerely: "You are so considerate and always remember what I like to eat."
This kind of positive feedback will make him feel your approval and love, and thus he will be willing to invest more time and energy in the relationship.
Remember, emotional bonds take work over time, and every mindful interaction will make your relationship closer.
Be moderately independent and remain attractive
Some women tend to lose themselves in love and put all their time and energy into each other. As a result, men take it for granted and even begin to ignore your efforts. A smart woman knows how to remain moderately independent and always be charming.
For example, sticking to your hobbies, whether it’s fitness, learning new skills, or hanging out with friends, can make you a more attractive person. When he sees a growing and confident you, he will cherish his relationship with you even more.
In a relationship between two people, maintaining a moderate degree of independence is the key to making the other person always feel fresh and appreciate you.
Smartly handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to avoid escalation of conflicts
In family relationships, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often emotional hidden dangers. Many women have constant quarrels with their husbands because of problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Smart women know how to avoid direct conflict and skillfully transfer the responsibility of "solving problems" to their husbands.
For example, if you find that there is a problem with your mother-in-law’s parenting style, don’t accuse her directly. Instead, communicate with your husband and ask him to give advice to your mother-in-law. This can not only maintain the relationship between you and your mother-in-law, but also let your husband feel your wisdom and consideration.
The wisdom in a family lies not in what you say, but in how you say it and who you let say it.
By using the top hat method, clarifying your needs, creating an emotional connection, staying independent, and navigating family relationships wisely, you’ll find that it’s not that hard to keep a man away from you. Every relationship requires wisdom to maintain, and every intention will make the relationship deeper.