"Why do we stop talking every time we chat?"
"I feel like we have a crush on each other, but we just can’t talk to each other. What should I do?"
“How can we make our conversations more in-depth and no longer remain superficial?”
When many girls are chatting with the person they like, the atmosphere gradually becomes cold due to boring topics or blunt responses. Today, we will share a tried-and-tested chat technique to help you quickly improve the quality of your conversation and take your relationship with him further.
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Why does the chat end in silence?
1. Single topic, difficult to go into depth
Repeating conversations about "what you ate today" and "what you have been busy with lately" every day will not make any mistakes, but there will also be no progress.
2. Lack of response and listening
When the other party shares her experience, the girl simply responds with "oh" and "that’s it" without in-depth interaction, which can easily make the other party feel lost.
3. The tone is too formal and has no sense of humor
Being too nervous or caring too much about the other person’s opinion will often make your performance appear stiff and affect the natural atmosphere of the chat.
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How to break the deadlock in chatting: Restore confidence and break inhibitions
Nervousness when chatting often stems from lack of confidence in oneself. To get rid of this inner demon, you can try the following methods:
1. List your advantages
Write down 10 of your own strengths and praise yourself in the mirror every morning to enhance your sense of recognition.
2. Let go of perfectionism
Chatting is an interaction, not an exam. Don’t worry about whether every sentence is correct, keep it natural and it’s okay to make mistakes occasionally.
3. Treat failure as experience
Chatting is a long-term interactive process. Even if you don’t perform well once, you can make up for it next time. Don’t affect the entire relationship just because of a small mistake.
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Core Skills: Topic Upgrading Method
The key to chatting is to make the topic hierarchical, gradually upgrade from superficial information to mid-level and deep-level information, and gradually shorten the distance between each other.
1. Surface Information: Building a Basic Understanding
Chat about each other’s hobbies, daily life and other superficial information, such as: "What dramas are you watching recently?" "What kind of music do you usually like to listen to?"
2. Middle level information: introducing emotions and memories
After understanding certain surface information, you can use questions to guide the other party to share their emotions and experiences.
· "Is this show you like very deep? Does it remind you of anything special?"
· "You said you liked puppies when you were a child. Do you have any special stories?"
3. Deep Information: Exploring Privacy and Values
When the relationship between the two becomes more advanced, they can talk about some future plans or outlook on life.
· “What do you think your biggest dream is?”
· “If you could live somewhere one day, where would you choose?”
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Concrete practice: How to apply skills to chat
Scenario 1: The other party asks you "What did you eat today?"
Common answer:
"Braised chicken."
Upgraded answer:
"I ate braised chicken, but to be honest, this restaurant is not as delicious as the one we went to last time! What did you eat for lunch? Let me guess!"
Why does it work?
Bring each other closer by mentioning your shared experiences while adding a sense of interaction with speculation.
Scenario 2: The other party shares their interests
Common response:
"Oh, you like basketball."
Upgraded version response:
"You like basketball! You must always follow the NBA, right? Do you have a favorite team?"
Why does it work?
Show your interest in him or her by asking specific questions, continuing the topic while making the other person feel cared for.
Scenario 3: The other party complains that work is tiring
Common comfort:
"Thank you for your hard work, go to bed early."
Upgraded version response:
"I can imagine that you have been working really hard recently. It seems that good people are always busier! Do you want me to bring you some delicious food to visit you on the weekend so that you can relax completely?"
Why does it work?
Empathize with the other person’s emotions while showing your care and thoughtfulness through concrete proposals.
A true chat master does not impress the other person with endless words, but through in-depth interaction, so that every conversation can touch the other person’s heart. Try these tips to take your relationship to the next level starting today!
"Girls who know how to chat can always make each other feel their irreplaceable value during the interaction."
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