"Why can’t I meet a good man?"
"Why do my relationships always end in vain?"
"Why are other people’s relationships sweet and lasting, while mine are always full of arguments?"
In fact, it is not luck that determines the outcome of love, but your "love rank".
High-ranking women can always handle relationships with ease. They not only attract high-quality boys, but can also control the rhythm of the relationship. However, low-ranking girls are often frustrated repeatedly due to wrong concepts of love.
Today, we will take you to fully analyze the secrets of love ranks, and teach you how to complete the transformation from a low rank to a high rank through mental methods and techniques!
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How to judge your love level? Three performances of low ranks
Excessive sense of need, "asking for more and giving less" for love
Low-ranking girls are usually full of expectations in relationships, but ignore the balance between each other. They will blindly ask the other party to meet their own needs, such as romantic surprises and material rewards, but rarely consider the other party’s feelings.
Typical performance:
· Often complains: "Why don’t you take the initiative to date me?"
· Taking "pamper me" as the core demand in love, while ignoring the contributions of both parties.
Solution:
Change your thinking from “What should he do for me?” to “How can we create value together?” Only by learning to win-win can you truly win his respect and love.
Severely emotional and unstable
Low-ranking girls often lose control of their emotions over trivial matters: if the other person forgets to reply to a message, they feel ignored; if they are a few minutes late for a date, they get angry. This kind of emotional display will gradually make the other person lose interest. What high-ranking girls do:
· Easy to coax but not easy to mess with: You can be moderately tolerant of the other party’s small mistakes, such as being late or busy; but when it comes to principled issues, such as cheating or betrayal, you will never tolerate it.
“Emotions are your weapons, not your burdens.”
Lack of self, don’t know how to refuse
Low-ranking girls often try their best to cater to each other, even at the expense of their own bottom line, because they are afraid of losing each other. This not only makes them look cheap in the relationship, but also makes the other person gradually lose interest. Characteristics of high-ranking girls:
· Know what you can compromise on and what you must insist on.
· Know how to say no at the right time and let the other person realize how precious you are.
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The core mentality of high-ranking women
Build a stable "emotional core"
High-ranking girls have a strong emotional core. No matter how sweet the relationship is, they can remain rational and self-sufficient. How to build an emotional core?
· Enhance independence: Let yourself have independent financial capabilities and life interests.
· Improve your sense of self-worth: Make yourself more confident through fitness, learning, etc.
Use the "Mirror Rule" to control the rhythm of relationships
The core of the Mirror Law is: How do you respond to the other person? Specific operations:
· If he takes the initiative to care about you, you can respond warmly and enhance mutual interaction;
· If he is cold to you, you should retreat appropriately and maintain a high profile.
Things to note:
The mirror law needs to be used flexibly to avoid being too mechanical.
For example, when he is cold, your response can be humorous:
"You’ve been so busy lately, are you secretly practicing your unique cooking skills to surprise me?"
Make good use of the emotional transmission of "in the name of love"
High-ranking women know how to establish emotional connections between both parties through delicate emotional expressions. For example, don’t hesitate to express your appreciation and love for the other person, so that he or she can feel your sincerity and warmth.
Example:
At the end of the date, you can say:
"Time with you always flies so fast. Remember to see me earlier next time."
This kind of relaxed and sweet expression can make the other person’s heart flutter without revealing a high sense of need.
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Practical tips for improving your love rank
Identify the "real and fake" of high-quality men
In love, the primary ability of high-ranking girls is to select high-quality partners. Judge whether the other person is sincere by observing his behavior and attitude. Skill:
· Don’t be easily moved by sweet words, use time to verify his actions.
· Observe his sense of responsibility through small things, such as whether he goes to appointments on time and whether he cares about your emotions.
Create "memory points" to make feelings deeper
High-ranking girls will use unique ways of interaction to make the other party have an unforgettable impression of them. method:
· Add a small sense of ritual to the date, such as choosing a special drink for him and jokingly saying: "This drink is called ‘Specially for You’. Try it and see if it tastes better than the ordinary drink."
· Use unique interest activities, such as going to the pottery studio to make exclusive gifts together, to make interactions more meaningful.
Improve the depth and interest of conversations
Low-ranking girls often fall into "household check-type" chats, while high-ranking girls know how to understand each other deeply through topics and at the same time show their attractiveness. Examples of speaking skills:
· "I recently read a book that mentioned that human behavior and habits can affect relationship patterns. Do you think behavior in love can be changed?"
· "Do you have any particularly unforgettable fun stories when you were a child? I guess you must have been a troublemaker when you were a child!"