"I was blocked by him after the breakup. Is there really no chance at all?"
"His circle of friends seems to be living a happy life. Has he stopped loving me a long time ago?"
"What should I do to make him come back?"
Being blocked is one of the most painful experiences for many people after a breakup. This behavior seems decisive and seems to symbolize that all emotions have been cut off with a knife. However, this is not the case!
Today, we will take you to re-understand the truth about "blacklisting" and teach you how to cleverly break the deadlock and regain the possibility of relationships.
The truth behind the breakup and blacklisting: Why did he do this?
He still cares, but his emotions are intense
Blocking you is a way for him to express his anger, loss or grievance. When men are in relationships, they are often not good at communicating their emotions with words, and prefer to express them with actions.
"Hate" itself is a kind of caring. Because he cares, he will choose to isolate you in extreme ways.
He is testing your attitude
After some boys block you, they don’t really want to cut off contact with you, but they hope to provoke a reaction from you through this behavior to see if you will take the initiative to win him back. This is a manifestation of "passive pursuit of a sense of existence."
He wants to look free and easy
The carnival and entertainment in the circle of friends may be his disguise. The more high-profile a person suddenly becomes after a breakup, the more likely they are to use this method to hide their pain. After all, people who really step out tend to keep a low profile.
3-Step Compound Strategy: Break Apathy and Rekindle Relationships
Stop entangled and re-examine the relationship
After being blocked after a breakup, many people’s first reaction is to frequently try to contact the other party. However, such behavior will not only not help reconciliation, but will also make the other party more resistant. Correct approach:
Stop any form of active contact and give each other time to cool down emotionally.
During this time, re-examine your relationship: Did you break up because of a misunderstanding, or did it break down because of long-term conflicts? Only by finding the real reason for the breakup can we find a breakthrough for reconciliation.
If you want to save a relationship, you must first stop entangled.
Indirectly establish communication and restore contact opportunities
If he has already blocked you, contacting him directly will only increase his resentment. At this time, you can try to convey your attitude through indirect channels.
Use mutual friends: Let your friends accidentally mention your recent situation to him, such as your positive changes, so that he can see a new you.
Use other platforms: If WeChat is blocked, you can try to send information through email, TikTok private messages, etc., but be careful to be sincere in your tone and avoid complaining.
"I won’t disturb you too much, I just want to tell you something clearly. Our breakup made me reflect a lot and realize that I did not do well. Thank you for everything you have given me."
This kind of speaking technique can relieve the other party’s wariness and at the same time convey your reflection and maturity.
Use emotional resonance to get closer together
The key to getting back together is to reconnect emotionally. Men are more likely to be moved by emotional resonance, rather than a simple "apology + request for reconciliation."
Share your beautiful memories, such as the trips you took together and the movies you watched, and use specific details to evoke his nostalgia for this relationship.
Restart the conversation with the help of topics that the other party is interested in, such as his favorite sports, movies, etc., to make the interaction natural and smooth.
"Today I passed by the restaurant we used to go to, and I remembered the dish you ordered, and suddenly I felt a little like you."
Reunion is not about starting over, but using memories to find a new starting point for feelings.
Things to note during the compounding process:
1. Don’t force the other party to express their position
It takes time to get back together, especially when the other person is still in emotional turmoil, forcing him to make a decision will only make him more resistant. Waiting patiently is more important than rushing for success.
2. Avoid talking about the reasons for the breakup again
During the process of getting back together, don’t repeatedly mention the conflicts during the breakup, as this will only make the other party relive the pain. Instead, focus more on each other’s futures and convey positive expectations.
3. Don’t over-expose your sense of need
Too obvious recovery intentions will make the other party lose the motivation to get close to you again. Only by making him feel that you are living a good life and showing a certain amount of regret at the same time can he be motivated to take the initiative.
Being blocked does not mean the end of the relationship. The key lies in whether you are willing to use patience and wisdom to re-build the bridge of communication.
"Emotional reconciliation is a battle that pays equal attention to strategy and sincerity."