"Why do I always fail in love?"
"You have obviously put in your efforts, but you still don’t get the respect of the other party?"
"How to improve your love ability and find someone who truly knows how to cherish yourself?"
These questions are common doubts of almost every girl who has failed in a relationship.
Xiaobai always felt that he was unlucky and every relationship ended in vain. When Xiaobai was with her ex-boyfriend, she always complained about her boyfriend because she wanted more company:
"You never accompany me! You always only think about yourself!"
Her boyfriend would comfort her at first, but then he gradually became colder and eventually the two broke up.
After the breakup, Xiaobai felt wronged and regretted why he couldn’t communicate well.
"Why don’t any of my relationships have good results?" This made her deeply doubt herself.
In fact, Xiaobai’s problem is a typical manifestation of the low-level love model: cannot communicate effectively, always uses emotions to express needs, and does not establish enough attraction.
Analysis of common problems in low-level relationships:
Communication Issues
Poor communication is a common problem among low-ranking girls, which manifests as:
1. Unable to answer the conversation: The topics raised by the other party are either nonsense or the answers are incorrect.
2. Emotional expression: Substituting complaints or accusations for one’s true needs.
3. Lack of skills: I don’t know how to make the other party love me more through communication.
Not knowing how to maintain attraction
When your boyfriend gives to you, if you just accept it but don’t respond, over time he will lose the motivation to continue giving. On the contrary, high-ranking girls know how to strengthen each other’s investment through feedback and interaction.
Lack of self-awareness
Over-reliance on the other person, giving everything for the other person, or constantly asking for the other person will make the other person feel stressed. This unbalanced relationship will eventually lead to exhaustion for both parties.
How to quickly improve your love level? 3 steps to make you a high-ranking goddess!
Learn to communicate and guide emotions
Communication is the bridge in love, and low-ranking girls often use complaints and emotions to distance them. The correct communication method should be a combination of "emotions + needs".
Case comparison:
Wrong expression: "Why don’t you stay with me? You don’t love me at all!"
Correct expression: "My dear, you have spent less time with me recently, and I feel a little disappointed. I especially hope to do more interesting things with you."
High-ranking girls know how to use gentle expressions to make the other person feel loved and willing to give more.
Build attraction and control the rhythm of the relationship
In a relationship, attraction is the key to keeping the other person paying attention to you. How to build and maintain attraction?
Master response skills
When the other person gives you a gift or compliment, don’t be perfunctory or shy, but respond with "gratitude + expectation". For example:
"This necklace is really what I want. Thank you for choosing it carefully!"
"I particularly like this date arrangement. You are always so considerate. I want to go to more interesting places with you in the future."
Appropriately create a "sense of uncertainty"
Don’t let the other person feel that you are always around him, but maintain appropriate personal space and mystery to keep him interested in you.
The real attraction is not how perfect you are, but how you make him feel that he is lucky to have you.
Improve yourself and get rid of dependence
The biggest characteristic of high-ranking girls is that they have independent selves in the relationship instead of being dependent on the other person’s existence.
Create charm points
Cultivate your own interests and hobbies so that you can shine more. Whether it’s fitness, traveling or learning a new skill, these will make you more attractive.
Build inner confidence
Don’t think of love as everything in your life, but make it a beautiful part of your life. A truly confident girl will make boys feel that "every day with her is full of freshness."
Only by having your own light can you become the real protagonist in your relationship.
Avoid low-level traps: Don’t step on 3 minefields:
Don’t deal with small problems emotionally
For example, if your boyfriend forgets to pour the water, don’t get angry directly. You can say: "I’m a little tired today, can you get me a glass of water?" This not only expresses the need, but also does not make the other party have negative emotions.
Don’t rush to entrust all your feelings
Keep a little sense of rationality and distance in the relationship, and let the other person feel that you are worthy of his pursuit.
Don’t lose yourself just to please the other person
No matter how much you love someone, you must have your own bottom line and principles, so that the other person can respect you more.
There is nothing terrible about being low in love. As long as you are willing to learn and change, and master the skills of communication, attraction and self-improvement, you can easily achieve emotional transformation.
"Love does not depend on luck, but on wisdom and strength." Starting today, try these methods to become a high-ranking girl who always takes the initiative in relationships!