Do you have such confusion:
· He is very kind to me, but he doesn’t express his love further.
· Chatting is smooth, but he seems to be able to chat with anyone.
· Every time I thought it was going to happen, I found that he was holding someone else’s hand.
If you have also encountered these problems, it means that your relationship may be stuck in the "optional but irreplaceable" stage. Today we will talk about how to change from his option to his only choice:
High-level relationship rules: let him take the initiative to approach you
In relationships, people who are more proactive tend to be more passive. The "scarcity effect" in psychology shows that the rarer something is, the more it stimulates people’s possessiveness. Therefore, the real wisdom is not to approach desperately, but to create opportunities for him to actively approach you.
Many girls always think that they have to rely on external conditions to win, but the fact is that what is truly unforgettable is not external excellence, but internal attraction.
Three steps to make him unable to resist you
Enhance value and control the rhythm of interaction
High-value women never rush to show everything about themselves, but use the "value increasing method" to release their attraction step by step. In the early stage, don’t rush to let him know everything about you, but create a "sense of mystery that is revealed layer by layer."
For example, one of my students, Xiaoya, was initially eager to show off her talents in the chat, but she made the other person feel pressured. After adjustments, she learned to gradually reveal her unique interests, such as her travel experiences and profound insights into art.
The other party, who was tepid at the beginning, gradually became active and devoted.
"The best rhythm of a relationship is when you take one step back and he is willing to take two steps toward you."
Create emotional value and touch his heart
There is no shortage of high-quality suitors for high-quality men. What really makes him unforgettable is who can bring him different emotional experiences. By creating emotional value through interactions, you will become the person he relies on most.
Instead of asking "How was your day?" try to create emotional resonance: "I just watched a movie and felt that it was similar to your experience. The main character in the movie…" Such a topic is both natural and engaging. Open your heart.
"People are always attracted to those who know how to trigger their own emotions. The art of chatting lies in this."
Create unique memories and become irreplaceable for him
In relationships, the biggest failure is "replaceability." You need to make him feel that no one is as unique as you. This doesn’t mean you have to be perfect, but it does mean creating unique moments in your interactions that make your relationship special.
For example, Xiaoyun remembers an unpopular book that the other person likes, and gives the other person a collector’s edition on his birthday. This kind of exclusive "emotional memory" makes the other party aware of her intentions and uniqueness.
"The true meaning of attraction is not to make the other person feel how great you are, but to let him understand that this kind of emotion is something that only you can give."
Psychological support: How smart women can take the initiative
There is a classic theory in psychology: "interaction effect". It states that when people devote more attention and energy, they tend to develop a deeper emotional attachment to a goal.
Therefore, in a relationship, don’t give blindly, but through appropriate guidance, let the other party take the initiative to invest in you. **
For example, when he offers to help, don’t rush to refuse, but accept it with a smile and express your gratitude: “Thank you, I always feel that you are around, and I will feel particularly at ease.” This kind of interaction not only makes him pay, but also makes him feel more at ease. Feel validated.
"The core of love is not how much you do for the other person, but making the other person feel that what he does for you is meaningful."
Written to all women: The victory of love is never about blind pandering
In a relationship, what you need is not just love, but wisdom. Carefully manage your own attraction, control the rhythm of the relationship, and make yourself the leader in the relationship, not a follower.
"The highest state of love is not chasing, but attracting."
If you want to get more happiness from your relationship but don’t know what to do, contact us as soon as possible and we may bring about new changes. Remember, you never have to please anyone, you deserve to be loved with all your heart. **