"What should I do if the date always ends badly?"
"He didn’t take the initiative to contact me. Did I do something wrong?"
"Why are other people’s dates sweet and fun, but mine are always a disaster?"
If these questions resonate with you, then you should definitely read on.
Today, let us solve the mystery of failed dates together and tell you how to use 5 simple principles and 3 practical skills to make him excited every time you go on a date!
5 Golden Rules of Dating
Principle 1: Mobilize the senses and make the date full of memorable points
Psychological research shows that human emotional experience is closely related to multi-sensory stimulation. A successful date is not just chatting and eating, but also making the other party remember the date deeply through the interaction of vision, hearing, taste and other senses.
Recommended dating scenarios:
· Visual feast: Aquariums, zoos and other places give people a novel visual experience through cute animals and dreamy lighting effects.
· Auditory stimulation: Concerts, musicals, etc., the strong musical atmosphere can instantly bring you closer to each other.
· Taste enjoyment: Choose a unique restaurant, such as a Western restaurant with a romantic atmosphere or a hot pot restaurant full of fireworks, and let the other person immerse themselves in the pleasure of delicious food.
Mobilizing the senses is not only creating an environment, but also implanting memory points for emotions.
Principle 2: Get your heart beating faster and inspire emotional connection
Science shows that when the heart beats faster, people are more likely to feel attached to and close to the people around them. You can choose activities that will get your partner’s heart racing, such as riding a roller coaster, skiing, or playing an exciting escape room game.
Research shows that when riding a roller coaster, a person’s heartbeat can reach more than 120 beats per minute on average, and the acceleration of the heartbeat often makes the other party mistakenly think that it is emotional fluctuations towards you.
Creating a moment of accelerated heartbeat is a catalyst for rapid warming of feelings.
Principle 3: Getting along with each other in small amounts and many times is the secret to improving relationships
Psychological research shows that meeting multiple times in a short period of time is more likely to enhance feelings than being together for a long time.
A brief meeting of 30 minutes a day can gradually build intimacy by sharing small daily things, while a long date can easily make people tired and even expose more problems.
Principle 4: Reciprocate courtesy and release your thoughtfulness
If the other person invites you to dinner during a date, you can take the initiative to buy drinks or desserts in return. This will not only make the other person think you are reasonable, but also pave the way for the next date.
Case:
After the boy invited her to dinner, a girl took the initiative to propose: "Next time I will take you to a particularly delicious coffee shop." This natural suggestion not only reflects thoughtfulness, but also creates opportunities for the next date.
Principle 5: Conveying emotions with eyes is more moving than words
Research shows that human eye contact can quickly bring people closer psychologically. An affectionate look and a gentle smile are more heartwarming than 100 love words.
The most easily overlooked difference in thinking between men and women during dating
Boys are "pioneers" and girls are "operators"
Boys usually tend to take the lead in the early stages of a relationship, such as taking the initiative to pursue and express their affection. Girls, on the other hand, are good at managing a relationship and making it more stable and long-lasting.
Therefore, girls can use clever ways to guide boys to take the initiative during dates, instead of being eager to express themselves.
Girls can hint rather than express directly:
"If someone can understand my little emotions and is willing to take me to my favorite dessert shop, then I will definitely be very touched."
This kind of expression conveys your needs without making the other party feel pressured.
Boys focus on solving problems, girls crave emotional resonance
When girls share their troubles on a date, boys are often eager to provide solutions, while girls actually want to be heard and understood.
Correct communication method:
Girls can express their emotions clearly first:
"I’m very tired today, but being able to come out with you makes me feel like I’ve forgotten all those troubles."
This kind of opening not only makes the other party feel your trust, but also allows the other party to respond to your emotions more naturally.
How does ### improve your dating experience? 3 key tips
Tip 1: Choose the right scene to avoid embarrassment
It’s important to choose a scene that suits both of your personalities. If the other person is quiet and introverted, you can choose places with a quiet atmosphere such as coffee shops and bookstores. If the other person likes excitement, you can try activities such as escape rooms and go-karts.
"The dating scene determines the atmosphere of interaction. If the atmosphere is right, the relationship will be easier to advance."
Tip 2: Use micro-expressions and body language to enhance intimacy
· Smile and gaze: When you smile, stay for a second and then naturally shift your gaze. This will not appear abrupt and will make the other person feel warm.
· Relaxed physical contact: For example, if you accidentally touch his hand when passing a drink, these subtle contacts will subconsciously bring you closer.
Tip 3: Make good use of “hints” rather than direct expressions
After you have gone on a few dates, you can tentatively express some expectations for the future, such as:
"If we have the opportunity to travel in the future, I will definitely let you arrange all the itineraries. Your taste really reassures me."
Hinting at future possibilities will make the other person look forward to more interactions with you.
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